So Much More to Be Thankful For this Thanksgiving.

A Birthday wish for a very talented woman. While it is unfair in some ways to have your Birthday on Thanksgiving.. it gives many of us just another reason to be thankful to have you in this world. I wish you the most stellar of days to Celebrate and to realize how fortunate you are to have those who love you this time of the year. You have wonderful friends and family who deeply care for you, and one strange duck who just annoys you to no end and for some reason will not go away….lol 

Always remembered .. always believed in. You are special in all the right ways Joey. 

30 is the minimum age for mature fine wine and women… you are better than BOTH. Go be spectacular and maybe this year many of your fantasies you never thought would happen….. may in fact happen for you.  But you will have to be receptive and seize the opportunity when it presents itself! My oh my…. How you will look On Gossamer Wings you can use to fly to the heights you desire… I hope to see it myself… 

Happy Birthday!!

Bye Kiddo… hope you are well.. and most importantly HAPPY!

I Fear What Happened in Paris is Just the Beginning of ISIS Exporting Terror

I loved my times in Paris. I am very sad to see what has occurred and I believe it will happen to many other places in Europe and eventually here. It was too well planned and executed to be a one time event in a single country. Some suggest Disney in the USA…. and NYC is too obvious a target… Washington DC will be very protected. but a Debate could be a target … Vegas sadly may be a place as it is seen as a Mecca of decadence. Do be careful. remember this was a 10:30 PM attack at 6 places at once while there was a popular concert and an important Soccer game taking place. It was designed for greatest effect. Please do stay alert … at least for the next 2 months My expected  timeframe for more activity . I hate to see this birthday in less than 2 weeks to be your lworst or last even if you ignore me I still believe. 

Prayers and thoughts for Paris tonight


Eiffel Tower in Peace Symbol

FIVE Years later

November 3, 2010 The last time you addressed me….. had you been “MY Joey”  I had been catfished  by all through 2009, you would have known you would have recognized this blog name. All you asked me for was my name in a direct message on Twitter …. and BOOM … blocked and ignored forever…  The only way I knew back then that you MAY have understood is that you essentially cursed  “Shelly” in a tweet later. 

It took me a long, long time to accept the fact I was catfished. I do not consider myself so dumb.. but the world was a bit different 6-7 years ago… but that does not mean I do not feel used or stupid for having bought into that “game”

November 8, 2011 Oh Shelly.. Oh Shelly Post was made here.. looking for the woman who pretended to be you.  It took me another year to realize who it really was.

I have said it many times before.. but as this is an anniversary of sorts I want to say t again.

Three was some transference of emotions  from what I felt for Shelly to you.. I was surprised at what you had done before that time… and seeing it made me appreciate you more as a person. I know people say you cannot “know” a person via Social Media… but I am hopeful by this time in your life you have come to realize that there is more than just “facts” you can deduce about people vis their interactions on Social Media .

What people would say to you and how they reacted to you as a person showed me a  woman I would have never known, had I not tried to learn about you during my years of denial that you were not my Shelly. Truth be told you are so much better than the Shelly I had come to care for. but what I felt for her was more deep and personal something no one can feel unless they have interaction with each other… this we never had.

Over time people reveal themselves…. not all of themselves but their basic personality gets exposed over things they say and do and those comments by others. What I came to belive then is essentially the same I believe now.

I see a woman who in her essence is a good and creative soul. A free spirit who longs for something more but is conflicted on how to become all she can be. ou love your work but it is not enough… you have shitty tastes in men…lol… well that may be an over statement but there are a lot of really good men who could hold you down without squashing your spirit. I hope you find that one soon… but do not make the same mistake I made a long time ago… and think you are getting  older and then settling … that route is a total disaster I sware. I know!  The only benefit was my 2 daughters from that relationship and even then it was hurt by the separation and bitterness that ensued. 

Time and time again I have said.. I BELIEVE IN YOU JOEY!… I have and I do. You have that special something that can do great things with your creative side… things that could have impact on the society we struggle with today.  One day  who knows.. maybe you will hear it from my own lips in person… But even with Bush’s  Baked Bean’s Dog trying to make it happen ….  Pigs still can’t fly. You control that.. I can only say when the times comes and you need to hear those words of encouragement and the litany of reasons why I believe … I will be pleased to share with you. and a reminder .. given the ridicule I was given , I should not say it.. but I am strictly Platonic in my offer.

Sadly I must ask you something as it seems I have been demeaned by a person or persons who know me from this “encounter” we have had. I have identified a woman there who is remarkable. Someone that has the drive and intellect to be like you but in a more professional area of life.  A woman who could make a great lobbyist or civil rights lawyer.. or someone I had hoped I could hire for my foundation if it is funded from my hydrogen project.

She is also someone I also like  as a woman, but wont pursue, directly  because of my situation in life…. primarily my daughter and my business or lack of it so far.  I hope to be able to see and possibly help her one day soon to become that extraordinary person who can help make society a better place . But for some reason she has singled me out for ostracizeing…. Obviously person(s) unknown have told her bad things about me as there is nothing in my background or history that is bad or even any indication from me that she should be aware of that I find her so special… this defamation hurts me deeply and I did not deserve that from them or anyone.  If it comes up or has come up in the last 10 days, please shut it down.. and who knows maybe you would tell her I am not this threat that she must believe I am…  I will thank you in advance.

I am having Surgery AGAIN on Friday the 13th.. My hernia last august, my right knee  meniscus last december, a ruptured bicep tendon at my shoulder (not operated on .. see YouTube for Longhead bicep Tendon repair and you will see why most people have pain the rest of their lives.. ) and NOW.. my left knee meniscus.. and they tell me it is a common soccer injury.. and I told them they must have the wrong MRI. I do not expect complications and should be home without hours of the surgery, but I doubt I will be doing much for a day or 2. 

I was dilly dallying and procrastinating in writing this.. I saw someone had read the Oh Shelly post from so long ago.. and today a significant increase in reads on this blog.. nt sure if it is you or actually related to you in some way… but even though I was not feeling up to it, I decided to write anyway… 

I truly and sincerely hope this finds you well Kiddo… You have been very inactive for a while… and I always worry about you when I see that… I know life and be difficult sometimes… but I also know you have the strength and determination and creativity to get though it. 

You are always in my thoughts Jo… I have really come to admire you for what you have done in your life and the woman you have become. 

(Sorry No MEME  today) 

What Women Really Need to Know About Guys!

While every guy is different here are 101 general things women should know about their guy. 

1.    Guys don’t actually actively pursue  good-looking girls. They prefer neat and presentable girls.

2. Guys love flirts.

3. A guy can like you for a minute, and then forget you afterwards.

4. When a guy says he doesn’t understand you, it simply means you’re not thinking the way he is.

5. “Are you doing something?” or “Have you eaten already?” are the first usual questions a guy asks on the phone just to get out from stammering.

6. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.

7. When a guy really likes you, he’ll disregard all your bad characteristics.

8. Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile.

9. Guys will do anything just to get the girl’s attention.

10. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend.

11. When guys want to meet your parents. Let them.

12. Guys want to tell you many things but they can’t.  And they sure have one habit to gain courage and spirit to tell you many things and it is drinking!

13. Guys cry!!!!!!!! (YES.. real men do cry on occasion) 

14. Don’t provoke the guy to heat up.  Believe me.  He will. 

15. Guys can never dream and hope too much.

16. Guys usually try hard to get the girl who has dumped them, and this makes it harder for them to accept their defeat.


17. When you touch a guy’s heart, there’s no turning back.

18. Giving a guy a hanging message like “You know what?!..uh…never mind!” would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking.

19. Guys go crazy when girls touch their hands.

20. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.

21. When a guy makes a prolonged “umm” or makes any excuses when you’re asking him to do you a favor, he’s actually saying that he doesn’t like you and he can’t lay down the card for you.

22. When a girl says “no”, a guy hears it as “try again tomorrow.”

23. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.

24. Guys generally are uncomfortable with hate gay men! (insecurity issues) 

25. Guys love their moms.

26. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.

27. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn’t mean that the guy likes her.

28. You can never understand him unless you listen to him.

29. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He does.

30. Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can.

31. Like Eve was to Adam , girls are guys natural weaknesses.

32. Guys are very open about themselves. (their non emotional side anyway)

33. It’s good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don’t let him wait that long.

34. No guy is bad when he is courting. (he can be good at hiding his bad side) 

35. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty when on a date. Even a small dot.

36. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they’re not that much pretty.

37. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.

38. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don’t need to give advice.

39. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.

40. A guy finds ways to keep you off from linking with someone else.

41. Guys love girls with brains more than girls in miniskirts.

42. Guys try to find the stuffed toy a girl wants but would unluckily get the wrong one.

43. Guys virtually brag about anything.

44. Guys cannot keep secrets that girls tell them.

45. Guys think too much about insignificant stuff.

46. Guys’ fantasies are unlimited. (rarely creative romantics) 

47. Girls’ height doesn’t really matter to a guy but her weight does!

48. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. So watch out girls!!

49. When a girl makes the boy suffer during courtship, it would be hard for him to let go of that girl.

50. It’s not easy for a guy to let go of his girlfriend after they broke up especially when they’ve been together for 3 years or more.

51. You have to tell a guy what you really want before getting involved with that guy.

52. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he’s too-good-never-been-busted, never been in love and hurt, he won’t be matured and grow up.

53. When an unlikable circumstance comes, guys blame themselves a lot more than girls do. They could even hurt themselves physically.

54. Guys have strong passion to change but have weak will power.

55. Guys are tigers in their peer groups but become tamed pussycats with their girlfriends.

56. When a guy pretends to be calm, check if he’s sweating. You’ll probably see that he is nervous.

57. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl. He really is.

58. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he’s just actually saying, “Please come and listen to me.”

59. Guys don’t really have final decisions.

60. When a guy loves you, it brings out the best in him.

61. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. (Not common) 

62. If a guy has been kept shut or silent, say something.

63. Guys believe that there’s no such thing as love at first sight, but court the girls anyway and then realize at the end that he is wrong.

64. Guys like femininity not feebleness.

65. Guys don’t like girls who punch harder than they do.

66. A guy may instantly know if the girl likes him but can never be sure unless the girl tells him.

67. A guy would waste his time over video games and basketball, the way a girl would do over her romance novels and make-ups.

68. Guys love girls who can cook or bake.

69. Guys like girls who are like their moms. No kidding!

70. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.

71. A guy’s friend knows everything about him. Use this to your advantage.

72. Don’t be a snob. Guys may easily give up on the first sign of rejection.

73. Don’t be biased. Try loving a guy without prejudice and you’ll be surprised.

74. Girls who bathe in their eau de perfumes do more repelling than attracting guys.

75. Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is about girls.

76. Guys don’t comprehend the statement “Get lost” too well.

77. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions but still love them more.

78. When a guy gives a crooked or pretentious grin at your jokes, he finds them offending and he just tried to be polite.

79. Guys don’t care about how shiny their shoes are unlike girls.

80. Guys tend to generalize about girls but once they get to know them, they’ll realize they’re wrong.

81. Any guy can handle his problems all by his own. He’s just too stubborn to deal with it.

82. Guys find it so objectionable when a girl swears.

83. Guys’ weakest point is at the knee.

84. When a problem arises, a guy usually keeps himself cool but is already thinking of a way out.

85. When a guy is conscious of his looks, it shows he is not good at fixing things.

86. When a guy looks at you, either he’s amazed of you or he’s criticizing you.

87. When you catch him cheating on you and he asks for a second chance, give it to him. But when you catch him again and he asks for another chance, ignore him.

88. If a guy lets you go, he really loves you.

89. If you have a boyfriend, and your boy best friend always glances at you and it obviously shows that he is jealous whenever you’re with your boyfriend, all I can say is your boy best friend loves you more than your boyfriend does.

90. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.

91. You can tell if a guy is really hurt or in pain when he cries in front of you!

92. If a guy suddenly asks you for a date, ask him first why. (PAY ATTENTION LADIES) 

93. When a guy says he can’t sleep if he doesn’t hear your voice even just for one night, hang up. He also tells that to another girl. He only flatters you and sometimes makes fun of you.

94. You can truly say that a guy has good intentions if you see him praying sometimes.

95. Guys seek for advice not from a guy but from a girl.

96. Girls are allowed to touch boys’ things. Not their hair!

97. If a guy says you’re beautiful, that guy likes you.

98. Guys hate girls who overreact.

99. Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships.

100. Guys are naturally insecure in sex, love and emotional issues

101. Guys do not like to compete for a girls affections. 

Things guys really need to know about girls and women.

60 Things Guys Should Know About Girls from a Woman’s Point of View: 

1) For all we talk about how hot guys are. We mostly care about their personality. Though a hot body is a plus

2) We are just as shy as you are about relationships

3) Many of us don’t let you see us cry, unless we want you to comfort us

4) We like dropping small flirts, to see if you are interested. But we will later deny it or make it into a joke

5) Most of us prefer to be call beautiful than hot or sexy. But not all of us

6) We only wear mini skirts, tank tops and skimpy cloths for you (unless it’s REALLY REALLY hot outside). So if you don’t like what we wear say something likely look really nice today, but you know…I think I like you in jeans better’

7) We travel in groups for one of two reasons 1) because we want to share some form of gossip with each other or get advice on something 2) B/c we don’t want to get caught by ourselves with you because we won’t know what to say and are afraid we’ll make a fool of ourselves

8) MOST girls spend about 15% of the time thinking about specific guys, 20% thinking of guys in general, 25% thinking of how to get guys to notice us and what to say when we do, 30% of the time TALKING about guys (even if someone else isn’t listening), and 10% of the time doing something else

9) Girls automatically assume that all guys are ***** and only want to get into our pants until you prove otherwise (and even then some small part of us still thinks that)

10) Most girls are under the impression that guys only want skinny ‘hot’ girls

11) Most girls enjoy being paraded around once in a while in front of your friends. We enjoy having you show us off to your friends, kind of like, ‘Hey, look at my hot ass girlfriend! Aren’t you jealous?” But we don’t enjoy being nothing but a trophy girl

12) Nicknames like “Babe, or darling” are safe to call just about any girl. But beware of “Princess or Angel”. Some girls will take offense to this thinking you are calling them to innocent or incapable of taking care of themselves.

13) Speaking of nicknames, almost every girl has ONE nickname that they just love to be called

14) Most girls will drop lots of hints to tell you that they like you, but won’t come right out and say” I like you” or “I love you”. If you think they like you, there is a good chance they do.

15) Scenario time! -You like a girl named Ashley, Ashley has a friend named Brenda. Brenda comes up you in the hall and asks “Do you like Ashley?”

More often than not in this scenario Ashley asked Brenda to ask you because she is to shy to ask you herself. And even if she didn’t the first thing Brenda is going to do with your answer is tell Ashley. Now you are thinking “WHAT!? NO!! DON”T TELL HER THAT!!!” but in reality, this is a good thing. Because there is a good chance she already likes you. And if she doesn’t, she will now be looking at you in a different way, and let me tell you. It’s a lot easier to fall for a guy if you already know they like you. So its safe. So go ahead and tell Brenda that you like Ashley. Take a chance. (Confused? Yea, it is confusing.. but read it again it is worth it) 

16) Girls hate it when guys say perverted things.

17) Girls love to feel special, even though they might not show it

18) Girls talk about everything with their girl friends. So unless you tell us not to tell them about something, they WILL know about it within 3 days. And if you are the girl’s boyfriend, that means, you’re possibly 90% of their conversation. And believe me, trash talking takes up most of it, unless you’re a Greek god, which you’re not…

19) Girls hate guys with bad hygiene.

20) Girls love it when a guy pulls them close by the waist

21) Most girls like a guy that will willing dance with them, even if he doesn’t know how

22) Usually, when a girl is sarcastically mean to you, it means they’re attracted to you, but are afraid that they’ll be showing too much

23) A kiss on the hand with the right timing can be a REAL TURN-ON

24) Some girls can think about their crushes for 18+ hours straight. No exaggeration

25) When a guy says something really sentimental, girls will remember it forever

26) Girls get embarrassed easily, even if guys don’t know what the hell just happened.

27) Girls daydream about their crushes ALL the time. They just don’t show it.

28) When a girl is upset and wants you to listen, she wants you to listen. She doesn’t need you to fix it or tell her how to. She just wants you to listen.

29) When a girl is crying, she feels a lot safer if you pull her close and tell her that everything is going to be all right. And more likely than not, it will endear them to you more than anything else.

30) Girls love it when guys say their name

31) Girls love confidence

32) When a girl cooks for you, you know you mean a lot to her

33) Girls hate it when other girls flirt. Yet they flirt themselves too. Ah, the beauty of irony

34) We don’t enjoy talking dirty to you as much as you enjoy listening.

35) Saying something sweet might get you off the hook; doing something sweet will always get you off the hook.

36) Size does matter, but only to hoes; not girls that want relationships.

37) No matter what you say, your ex-girlfriend is a hoe to us. Not because we don’t like your taste in women, because believe me WE do! it’s just that…we don’t want to have to wonder if she is better than us. And if she is a hoe, we are better. So it makes things simple for us.

38) We are self-conscious by nature; we can’t help it. But we CAN try to hide it.

39) Even if you think it is cool to burp, fart, or emit other strange gases from your body, it is not. Though we sometimes will tell you it is.

40) As far as you are concerned, we are beautiful at all times, and don’t tell us different, unless you make it sound like a compliment (even if it isn’t) Like, “You were really pretty yesterday when you wore (insert clothing/accessory here) , I think you should wear that more often”

41) Whatever you do, don’t just show up at our house unexpected or at least without ringing the doorbell…we run around in our underwear just like you do. And no matter how much you would like to see that, we will likely never talk to you again

42) DON’T CHEAT ON US. It may seem foolproof, but girls tell each other everything about everything. Trust me, they WILL find out and you will be dirt.

43) We want you to beware of every male relative and all guy friends. All of them would kick your ass at the drop of a hat, and a lot of them wouldn’t even wait for the damn hat. We just don’t want you to be too obvious.

44) We enjoy being kissed by you in front of your friends. It makes us feel like you care a lot about us.

45) You don’t have PMS; so don’t act like you know what it’s like. Don’t try to understand…believe me you never will.

46) Violent statements like “If that guy keeps looking at you, I’m going to tear his head off” are appealing

47) We don’t want you to say you love us if you don’t mean it

48) We love it when you make eye contact with us while we talk.

49) Most girls are afraid of losing our independence to guys (for some unknown reason)

50) If you ask a girl out directly, more likely than not, she will say yes to you. Even if she only has lukewarm feelings for you, because it will give her the chance to get to know you better and get to like you even more.

51) Most girls love it when guys ask them for advice.

52) Girls like it when you tell us what you are thinking, even if you don’t understand it yourself

53) After you’ve been dating for a while, realize that we really have started to trust you. When you have a girlfriend who truly trusts you, you have a lot more responsibility, privilege and control than you would think. Be careful with it, most guys would kill for that kind of power, and it can be lost in a nanosecond

54) There is nothing wrong with being attentive and sensitive. However, this behavior can be carried too far. You don’t have to hang on our every word or give in to our every whim. The thrill of the chase doesn’t end after the first successful pick-up line. If you don’t present us with some minor challenges, we’re likely to get bored, or worse, feel that you’re creepy and obsessive.

55) Variety is the spice of life. There are patterns underlying what your woman says she likes and doesn’t like. It would benefit you far more to try to discern the nature of these than to repeat everything she admits to enjoying until she no longer does

56) Most men think the chase ends once they have us, but truly it has only just began.You must work even harder to keep us then you do you earn us. We not some trophy you can earn,put on a shelf and admire. You have to care for us like the living human beings we are.(see 54)


58) If someone flirts with you, it’s a compliment. If you’re not interested, accept it but don’t flirt back.

59) The woman in your life needs to hear how you feel about her, and often. Tell her now

60) All women are complicated, and it is doubtful any man will ever fully be able to understand us. But we know that, so it’s going to be ok.

Relationship Tips for Women

Ladies have the habit to over expect and end up being unsatisfied. To prevent this, have a plan, figure out what your goal is, define the pace, be insightful about your partner and spend quality time with one another.

Relationships may be warm and beautiful, yet they can also be destructive and complicated. These useful advice may help you gain better insight of that special person in your life.

Have a plan in mind

When it comes to relationship advice for women, there is nothing like having a good plan in mind beforehand. Like everything else, engaging yourself in a romantic relationship with your eyes wide open will help you become ready with the setbacks which may happen on the way. If you’re out and looking to meet more people, a jazz lounge or a bar may be a great spot to hang out, let your hair down and just have a great time. In contrast, if ever you have directed your mind on getting serious and building a family, it is a good option to not hang out at bars and instead sign up for hobby groups to find a person with similar interests. Coming prepared won’t mean that the whole thing will be smooth the moment that you made up your mind, rather, it shows that you have a general expectation of how things ought to be in the near and distant future.

Know what you are looking for

Being aware of what you are looking for is important so you don’t end up looking around for disappointment. It is reasonable that girls have an ideal man in mind, but as time goes by, your dream guy changes as maturity and time sets in. Yet, having this picture of the perfect boy will help you specify your requirements for a significant other. Romantic relationships should be a collaboration, and both parties need to think that their interests and aims in life go in the same direction. Thinking up expectations should not signify that you avoid every person that does not measure up to what you expect; it only suggests that you shouldn’t continue dating the wrong guys.

Determine the pace

The idiom easy come, easy go is applicable. As soon as you go into a relationship, you should establish the pace. Pick a pace that matches into your present state of mind and chosen lifestyle. A pacing that is too fast isn’t very good, but having a pace that is too slow may mean you are not totally invested in the relationship and that might irk your other half. Therefore, you should really first define a pace that’s right for you and your partner and work with that.

Know your partner

Being in a relationship, you might stumble into conflicts and petty misunderstandings. The only method to deal with these is not to repress them, but to try to see things from your second half’s mindset. If he is moody after work, it may be due to the fact he had a hard day at work and not because he does not want to see you. You’ll be happy to find how a little understanding can cultivate the issues you come across.

Spend quality time with one another

Among the important factors of going into a relationship is to spend enough time with your significant other. Try to take time out of your busy schedules to enjoy time together. It may be something simple and mundane like enjoying films at home or fixing him a tasty dinner one day. For those who have youngsters, ask somebody to watch over them for a number of hours while you spend great time spouse or significant other.

Stepping into a relationship should be a wondrous decision. There’s no need to fret over the small stuff and miss the big picture

The Catfish thing has been bugging me a lot lately

when I saw this on a FB page I follow I just cut and pasted it here… seems people do not understand how others can be suckered… but it is only in the last couple of years that this has been talked about more… sometimes I feel foolish.. other times I think I was just being me.. sensitive and vulnerable at that time especially… in any event it hurt.. and still does.. especially when I realize how I was viewed by those less sensitive to the victims of such actions. Hope al is well with you.. congrats on your headband you earned this past weekend.

Due to all the recent posts about ‘lost love’, Catfish, and all the other pending dilemmas that we face with ‘Social Media’ communications, it has caused me to ponder this new technology once again.
The best analogy that I can conclude is this:
Let’s say you get a letter in the mail that holds a photo and a brief composition from someone. You send a letter back to them , ……….. and the process of communications begins.
You do this for days, weeks or months. Do you feel that you would be able to base an informed opinion on that persons personality, their character, their demeanor, their sense of humor, their likes & dislikes, what makes them ‘tick’ or what switch set them off? Do you think you could become easily attracted to someone or even fall in love with someone by sending letters back and forth the old fashion way? ……………………………………….. If your answer is no, then why would you feel that you can on social media ? Social media is basically the same thing as a ‘snail mail’, it’s just simply faster in response time, nothing more.
I’m just say’n that when it comes to human interaction, for me personally, I HAVE to physically be in the presence of that other person. I have to see them, hear them, feel them, smell them, essentially know them in the first person BEFORE allowing any emotional feelings to stir inside of me. Anything less than that, you are only basing your feelings & emotions on written symbols called letters that constitute words, no different than reading Egyptian hieroglyphics.
Now I ask you, how much feeling and trust can you put into symbols?

Sometimes, especially in these modern times of electronic communication, typed letters and words have no more meaning to us than these hieroglyphics. When you’re physically with someone, the person that is conveying his or her thoughts can put those words into action, not simply just convey those words aimlessly without any effort of confirming them through deed.
Basically it amounts to this, unless you live on a desert island or a Swiss mountaintop, people are relatively easy to find. As for me, I will discover my treasure in my own backyard. Because once it is found, it will be sooooooo much easier for me to enjoy, knowing that it is close at hand and that I am able to protect it, cherish it and keep it safe.
Just MY personal humble opinion and interested in knowing others thoughts.

“We have an unknown distance yet to run, an unknown river to explore. What falls there are, we know not; what rocks beset the channel, we know not; what walls ride over the river, we know not. Ah, well! we may conjecture many things.” – John Wesley Powell, Old West soldier and explorer

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