Truth is I was going to make my first post on Economic forecast for 2013-14 which would be the first I have written since 2007 when I was predicting the 2008 economy… At that time the only thing that was pending was who was going to be President and I said back then that it did not mater who won in that there was a giant mess that would weigh on that president for most of his 4 years…. in fact, although we are feeling better, we are only getting used to a new norm of slow growth economics that will last for a long time.
The purpose of this post is actually something that has bugged me for some time with the young males that have this distorted delusional view of what a MAN is …. and the BS talk about having a MAN CARD.
So many people in your industry seem oblivious to what is going on in this world… while the average millennial is more indifferent to the current state of our country and the economic realities I find entertainment industry from performers to those shaking and bakin in the clubs are far further from reality than most… at least based on Tweets which it has been shown by psychologists to give strong incite into a persons true personality.
I have seen people like your friend who got married working her makeup line. but I do not see many people tweeting her product anymore.. I see Pierce Ross in the bespoke industry which is growing and very upscale. I see you and RH in your business and getting some attention… and then I see many that are intent to last to the last days of their viability in the industry jumping to the newest Clubs and doing well for now… but when they pay Calvin Harris 300K for 1 night.. there is not a whole lot of margins and the pressure to bring in table service clients in all the clubs is getting more intense. and there are the WOMEN in your industry who admittedly do have a shorter life expectancy in that field.
It surprises me to see the MEN having to parade their machismo. Heavy drinking is regular. and club management has not been very loyal to some. the real problem happens when these false bravado males meet the real world… the world after nightlife club services. How many guys have you seen change positions.. even women this past year.. how many have left.. and how few were really prepared.
I have a real shocker for those guys.. in your industry the Q will always be “why are you valuable today.” and “what justifies your paycheck tomorrow.”
It may be pretty cool to be all tatted up.. or muscle-bound.. or to show oneself that they can shoot firearms and golf and grab their crotch… but outside that industry there is little tolerance for that. . Women will have to face the realities of age… Tyra Banks did… so she not only did a company but also got her executive MBA from Harvard KNOWING it takes more than a pretty face and an idea but real skills. I could spend a week with that woman just learning how she thinks.. it is not about sex it is about personality.
When I see a male criticize another male for driving a mini ban in the middle of the day with no kids and saying he should have his MAN CARD revoked I cringe… that person who made that comment has NO F’n Idea what he is talking about and made a snap judgement on someone he did not know about or what that person was doing..
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A MAN CARD. What a male owns, what a male wears, what a male looks like or drives… this has little to nothing to do with what being a MAN is… when a male stands behind an obviously overweight woman with a child in line at a McD’s and takes a phone pic and puts it up with a ridicule statement of that woman.. that is not a man who is an ignorant punk who needs to denigrate others to feel good about himself. I read a lot of tweets and instragrams of men who do that to others.. some of these males are short so I wonder if that Psychological issues called “Napoleon Complex” is applicable.. but for the most part I just cringe that these males call themselves MEN… when they are not even boys yet. Condemning the Persians at Christmas in Vegas is like telling them you don’t want their money when they are the predominant group spending money at that time. PURE IGNORANCE AND BIGOTRY!.
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A MAN CARD or anything physical or external that makes a male a MAN. I know.. I mean I personally know… THIS IS FALSE.
It is well-known that a beautiful woman with a bad personality or who is ugly inside is not a woman anyone wants around for long… we also know that YOLO was misinterpreted as doing ANYTHING because you only live once.. when people started to realize there are consequences for every actions (both good and bad consequences for both good and bad actions) and with phone cameras and vine and the rest these actions are practically permanent in some social record or another. then we need to understand that it is foolish to do certain things, make certain statement or to think that a persons physical appearance will not chance over the years.
Your tattoos are interesting. Some very personal but you have many visible ones. For me to be able to have had a relationship with you or someone like you with such visible tats.. or possibly the wildness and antics on film from your workplace… I could not take tat person with me to meet many of the people I have met and hope to meet again as there is a disrespect such art to the body in so many places portrays to the people I must do business with. You make choices in life.. and sometimes they may limit opportunities or expand them depending on where you want to go in your life. You are a woman… and many in your industry have tats some far greater than I ever expected.. but those were their choices and while it did not make me think less of them that YOLO action on their part changed their future in many ways.
I was a “BUCK” .. a guy who was physically large and strong 32 inch waist and had to were 38 inch pants to accommodate my muscular thighs from Squat Thrusts… 46 to 48 coat size because of my shoulders and biceps and could rip out the back of a shirt when I did a HULK like pose.. but that did not make me a man.. it made me more of a thug … I have hundred on 4 continents.. BIG African Game safari hunts. Deep Sea Fished in Mazatlan and caught Marlin and Sail fish and mounted them that most men could only dream of.. but that did not make me a man… those things made me lucky.. and now later in life thankful that I was able to have those experiences.
NO… I started to become a man when I lost my physical abilities.. when I was paralyzed from the waist down.. and I became more of a man in those 6 months of surgeries and the next 3+ years of more surgeries and learning how to walk again than I was my entire life before .. and it was NOT because I had to work so had jut to learn to walk.. that did not make me a man…. a conscious awareness of who I was in the universe.. or in this world… of what I did and did not do.. and what I had failed to contribute while doing the things that I thought made me a man.. THIS was the beginning of a Journey that made me a man… an imperfect one.. but more of a man than most because I understood for the first time in my life what being a man was about.. and it was not my physical prowess… (or then my lack thereof)… it was the person inside that made me a man. It was how I contributed to the world I lived in and the people I cared about and the issues of the day that had meaning to me and the society as a whole.. THESE things are what makes a man.. and there is NO SUCH THINK AS A MAN CARD. and there is no such thing as a perfect man as every one of us is flawed in one way or another.. but as men we try to improve ourselves and be better despite setbacks.
When I see commercials about getting your Man Card back.. or others that suggest testosterone drugs will make a male a man… or the standards of drinking abilities or physical abilities and that these make a MAN.. I want to puke.. I mean seriously puke.
For whatever reasons a woman likes bad boys… that only makes good men give up… bad boys will always be bad boys.. self-centered and egotistical and ready to move on when things get intense.. they do a disservice to real men who know how to stand up and do what is right and not what is convenient even in the face of great resistance, taunts and jeers and the disrespect of others, THESE men are the REAL MEN.
Steven Hawking is more of a man than most in this world including me not because of his obvious brilliance but his dedication to contribute, his praise for this first wife that he said saved him, for his indomitable spirit. that same spirit I find is true in W.E.B. Du Boise’s The Damnation of Women in his description of black women.
Real men are not dismissive of others automatically because of appearance or station in life, because of their customs, culture, race creed or religious beliefs or sexual orientation or gender. or any of the things that make us a glorious Hodgepodge of humanity filled with diversity. A real man would never dismiss anyone just on that classification… would not let bigotry influence first impressions., would accept all as his equal and would rather teach than lecture if he finds himself in a position of greater knowledge or ability. A real man stand up for the weak because they cannot stand up for them selves. and when he makes a commitment , even when faced with personal sacrifices that others would excuse him from living up to that commitment still fulfills that commitment because it was the right thing to do.
THERE IS NO SUCH THINK AS A MAN CARD… ONLY REAL MEN AND THOSE THAT CONTINUALLY TRY TO BE BETTER THAN THEY ARE FOR EVERYONE.
Jo, my life has taken many radical turns that i never thought would happened.. from the time I decided to date outside my race to my injuries to my travels around the world… to having the most perfect marriage I could have ever hoped for only to see it all stripped away from me leaving me only my responsibilities and little of my dignity. I have met or at least observed interesting people and a number of women in Vegas as well… none of whom I will ever get to meet let alone speak to one day… my responsibilities are here with T.. but to spend an afternoon with 5 or 6 of the women you know.. preferably as individuals or even as a group to see if my general assessment of them is as accurate as to their dynamic personalities and even depth of character… ohh what I may have given for that experience of a long conversation…. but I have been catfished.. so I an a skeptic… but I still have fantasies (and NO they are not sexual – they are like sitting down with the president to discuss the Middle East.) real fantasies for real discussions and exchanges of information… things real people do with one another to learn and experience… Pierce would have been one, Schae another, Kristina a third… each of them unique and mature in different ways and never stopped growing or developing themselves… women that are more interesting in the personas than maybe even they believe.. like you Joey… but your potential is so much greater.. if only you could harness it and direct it without the slugs weighing you down (not your co-owner as she is dynamic) there would be no stopping you .. but for now I just hope you will at least find that perfect niche to keep you happy.
See this is another part of this being a man thing.. when the fake ones are always on the prowl.. legit ones like me who is not hunting for a sexual romp are always misunderstood.. they ruin it for real men looking for real interactions with real people who happen to be women the (we/ I ) admire. and that rant to real men vs Man Cards is done for today.. I hope…LOL
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